It is easy to go through life pretending we do not make mistakes. On the other hand, it is difficult to acknowledge when do make them. It may be a conscious decision, or maybe we are embarrassed by what we did. Either or, it is still difficult to acknowledge.
I am guilty of making mistakes along the way. I know they were mistakes because I have lived to see the end results. Some, I regret, others, I wish I could completely erase. Not because of the consequences that they had in my life, but because they also affected others.
What have I done to prevent making more mistakes? I understand that when I go through life thinking I can do whatever, I make a mess of things. However, by consulting God before I make crucial decisions, I have been able to make better decisions and less mistakes.
Mistakes from My Own Understanding
When I rely on my own understanding of a situation, I see it with my emotional side. If I was hurt, I want others to know my pain. I may get angry and lash out. I may say words that will resonate forever. Once these actions are out, there is no way to take them back. I may say I am sorry, but even if I am forgiven, I am sure that it is not forgotten. That damage remains. Trust may be lost. It is so easy to react. It is not so easy to hold back.
Mistakes not Planned
There are mistakes that we do not plan on making. There are times that we say or do something without realizing it is not the right thing. Those are the hardest to understand. We did not mean to do them, they just happened. We may feel shame or get embarrassed about what we said or did. If we admit to it, we may be looked down upon. Same as with any mistake, acknowledge, ask for forgiveness, and try to remedy the situation. However, damage is done and trust is lost.
What could change, if our understanding of situations or decisions came from God, instead of ourselves? What could change, if we consult God before we make a decision? Could that help avoid mistakes? I believe so. When we take time to speak to God about our situations, we are not reacting in the heat of the moment, we are explaining and reasoning the decision, and we are willing to listen to his answer. We are opening our hearts, and we are thinking things through.
Wait for His Answer
Time is of the essence. While we feel we need an answer here and now, maybe there is a bit of time that needs to pass by for things to be right. While we are praying, he is listening. He already knows what is in our hearts before we pray to him. It may be that he is working on it as we speak to him. It maybe that he needs to work on other’s hearts to get the answer we seek. The importance is to wait for his answer.
Does this Mean that we Will Never Make a Mistake Again?
No, it does not mean that. Why? Because there will be circumstances that we will continue to react without consulting God, first. However, as we build our lives with him in it, learn to rely on his understanding, little by little, we will learn to do better, to react less, and to consult him more.
3:16 Every scripture is inspired by God and useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
3:17 that the person dedicated to God may be capable and equipped for every good work.
3:2 For we all stumble in many ways. If someone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect individual, able to control the entire body as well.